This is the most unintentionally hilarious ask I’ve ever received. Good job.
First off, you have a lot to learn about The Nice Guy (TM) and feminism in general. Jeff Fecke has one of the best write ups on the subject I’ve read so far.
Second, a lot of times women are not “leading you on”. As a woman, it never ceases to amaze me how being nice to a guy can equal leading them on. You can’t be nice to some men because they automatically think you’re gift wrapping your vagina. Sometimes women are just being polite. Are there women who use their looks in a way that gets them what they want? Yes, but not enough to warrant the “friendzone”/”nice guy” phenomena. Pretending such reveals your pretty shitty views on women.
Do you have any idea what it’s like to be a woman on the receiving end of these messages? No, because men like you only care about their own perspectives. It sucks when someone you care about doesn’t like you, but no matter how “nice” you are, that doesn’t entitle you to anything. Do you have any idea how many guilt trips I’ve gotten for not returning some dude’s affections? I’ve even had a dude tell me I’m not a lesbian. He felt that entitled to my sexuality. He was allowed to tell me who I should date. Namely him.
And guys like that, it doesn’t matter how many times you tell them “no”, they won’t take the hint. That guy, the one who told me I’m not a lesbian, he tried to kiss me after that. After I told him no. No. No. No. But everybody agreed he was a “nice guy”. Men think that if they keep being nice to a girl, eventually her panties will drop, and she’ll be yours. Even if she tells you no.
So the friend zone with a Nice Guy(TM) typically works like this:
Nice Guy (TM): Hey I’m going to be nice to you.
Nice Girl: Awesome, you’re a nice guy.
Nice Guy (TM) : Since I’ve been nice to you, how about some poontang?
Nice Girl: I’m not actually interested, but how about I continue being nice because I’m a nice girl.
Nice Guy (TM) : Alright, I’ll continue to be nice.
Nice Girl: Good, I’m glad you value me as a person and not just a piece of ass.
Nice Guy (TM): You’ve continued to be nice to me. Clearly you want my dick.
Nice Girl: What, no, I’m just being a nice person
Nice Guy(TM): Oh my god what the fuck am I wasting my time on. the only reason to have a nice, friendly relationship with a girl is to get laid, that’s the only reason men and women are ever, ever nice to each other, you really thought I valued you as a person?
Nice Girl: Oh what the fuck you’re not nice at all.
You can call me an angry fucking feminist all you want but that’s the reality of the friendzone. The negativity attached to it suggests that friendship with a woman is a horrible fucking thing to be avoided, and boy does that feel awesome for a woman to hear.
There are nice guys, and there are Nice Guys(TM). Learn the fucking difference.
Oh but I’m wasting my breath because your last line obviously shows you value women based solely on their sexuality, so this opinion is no surprise